Anyone feel uncomfortable when people are very emotional when talking?

[ProgFusionRoman]

The context is "at work".

I am very comfortable with who I am but find it annoying that some "super extravert" can make me feel a bit uncomfortable, to the point where I wince a bit while he is.....ummm...."extraverting in a very emotional way about nothing to do with the work meeting at all".

I am not annoyed with the extravert but with myself. Happens only with 2 guys, 1 only a little and 2 a lot more.

I end up clenching a fist or my toes or something until I can bring the subject back to "logical normality".

Any ideas/help would be appreciated.

I would like to know if any of you "E" types out there have anything to say about this. Note the "E" types referred to here are friendly types whom I respect, which is why I find my behavior annoying.

[Zombicide]

The context is "at work".

I am very comfortable with who I am but find it annoying that some "super extravert" can make me feel a bit uncomfortable, to the point where I wince a bit while he is.....ummm...."extraverting in a very emotional way about nothing to do with the work meeting at all".

I am not annoyed with the extravert but with myself. Happens only with 2 guys, 1 only a little and 2 a lot more.

I end up clenching a fist or my toes or something until I can bring the subject back to "logical normality".

Any ideas/help would be appreciated.

I would like to know if any of you "E" types out there have anything to say about this. Note the "E" types referred to here are friendly types whom I respect, which is why I find my behavior annoying.

Though I'm not sure what the body of the thread is referring to, I can say regarding the title that it is one of if not thee most uncomfortable situation I can be in, especially when the person starts crying or getting serious over something that I would otherwise think of as funny or a non issue.

[pure potential]

Well, I thing its very honorable that you care enough to take a look at yourself for motives of your actions. :)

I can also totally understand how it can make you feel uncomfortable. You are probably correct in walking away as your best possible reproach. Attempting to inspire change in them may be an exhausting effort that is not worth taking on. On the other side, sticking around and doing your best to exhibit a higher level of tolerance (as painful as it may seem) may allow you to connect more with that shadow side of your psyche.

In my world I prefer to keep work professional, with due respect, and reserve my strongly extroverted emotions to my personal life. Granted "life happens" and this side exposes itself on rare occasion. Which, much like yourself, prompts me to take a look at my current condition.. an challenge/opportunity in itself.

[Tranquillity]

One advice - zone out.

Works all the time for me unless they are really in my face.

[Monte314]

I have to deal with this as part of my work in the church, so I've developed the necessary skills...

...and, meeting people where they are emotionally and intellectually is a skill. It can be developed by study and practice. INTJ's, it seems, don't see much value in developing this skill; I think that accounts, in part, for our weakness in this area.

[Pika]

I am well past retirement age now. Even after all these years, and having had jobs that required dealing with other peoples emotions, I still get really uncomfortable around emotional display. I, too, try to get away as soon as possible. I'm not proud of my reactions but I don't seem to have much choice.

[True Rune]

It is a little uncomfortable. Sometimes it even seems false, but I guess it's just something you deal with. One on one stuff I don't deal with often because I've made it known I don't want to.

[ProgFusionRoman]

Thanks everyone. I honestly got something out of every post.

I will try a combination of zoning out / developing skills.

[Mathnerdkid]

Yes, I never know how to react. Don't answer if it doesn't require a response, and if it does, try to answer honestly but not harshly. The lines between honest and harsh can be blurry, however. This is what I have found works best.