Which of the following best describes your requirement for sex? [Archive]

dalidaisy

01-22-2009, 05:47 PM

Well, I don't necessarily agree with the three basic choices. I think there's a lot more going into my requirements. I chose close relationship/friendship. There's a level of trust that has to be there that no casual sex, friend or not, can offer. However, I do not need to be friends with the person. Actually, I can hate the person. I just need a deep level of understanding & a mutual trust. This can be gained in many ways. It can be quick or it can take years. There's no one simple recipe for me, like, say, Kisai's requirements (although, I do not judge him or find him in the wrong in any way). It really just depends on the person/situation...

intjdude

01-22-2009, 05:49 PM

What if my response lies in an area that would most likely be considered beyond one of the choices? It kinda seems like you have 4, 5, and 6, but not 3 or 7 (let alone A or K). Should I just go with the closest option? Because I thought that I should kind of whine about it (hence this post).

Good question.

For now we'll have to go with what we got until we get a consensus that a very important and very distinctive option is missing. Feel free to strike it up.

Synamon

01-22-2009, 05:53 PM

Since everyone is choosing the same option I'd say the poll flawed.

intjdude

01-22-2009, 05:57 PM

Well, I don't necessarily agree with the three basic choices.

Feel free to suggest specific options.

intjdude added to this post, 1 minutes and 31 seconds later...

Since everyone is choosing the same option I'd say the poll flawed.

Possibly. Lets see how it goes.

BostonIan

01-22-2009, 06:07 PM

Yeah, there should be more choices, multiple choices, click all that apply:

Asexual? Only after marriage? Only after an extended courtship? Soon into a committed monogamous relationship? With a close friend, relationship possibility? With a friend, casually? A one-night stand with someone known, possibly leading to a relationship? A one-night stand with someone known, no strings attached? A one-night stand with a stranger, expectant of continued correspondence. A one-night stand with a stranger, no strings attached? A prostitute/escort?

flyingtoaster

01-22-2009, 06:08 PM

Good question.

For now we'll have to go with what we got until we get a consensus that a very important and very distinctive option is missing. Feel free to strike it up.

Using Elston's scale, if the current choices represent 4, 5, and 6, I suggest choices 0 and/or 2:

0: None. No, really.
2: Only with my spouse / I'm waiting until I marry.

I lack the perspective needed to write options in the 7-10 range; maybe someone else can.

intjdude

01-22-2009, 06:17 PM

Using Elston's scale, if the current choices represent 4, 5, and 6, I suggest choices 0 and/or 2:

0: None. No, really.
2: Only with my spouse / I'm waiting until I marry.

I lack the perspective needed to write options in the 7-10 range; maybe someone else can.

Not sure what to make of option 0 there but I presume that person need not answer this poll at all since they have no interest in sex to start with.

#2 would be the first choice above... its a close relationship.

Right now I'm just trying to guage the distribution among those who require:
-close relationship
-any friend
-stranger... possibly someone who you've talked to for a few hrs.

pocohauntus

01-22-2009, 06:17 PM

Must be within walking distance. Oops, here he is now, just got home, sitting down watching "Bones", eating chips or maybe pretzels. What a good man he is. I love this guy.

Rudy

01-22-2009, 06:21 PM

watching "Bones"... What a good man he is.
I don't know... watching Bones after what happened in the Season 3 finale? You sure you know this guy?

rudyhenkel added to this post, 2 minutes and 32 seconds later...

I lack the perspective needed to write options in the 7-10 range; maybe someone else can.

Not sure, but if that scale is supposed to cover the whole spectrum, I have to guess that 10 is pursuing sex with the unwilling. I.e.: rape. 9 might be very aggressive pursuit, to the point where you get some restraining orders taken against you.

ToC

01-22-2009, 06:43 PM

I don't get this. Why does everybody have to be close friends to fuck? For rational people it seems out of character.

intjdude

01-22-2009, 07:10 PM

I don't get this. Why does everybody have to be close friends to fuck? For rational people it seems out of character.

good question. :)

I'm guessing it might be part of the 'reserved' (critical) personality?

You could also argue that a hot stranger is fuckable and thus logical... but why this is not enough to an INTJ is a good question indeed. Maybe a S type is more likely to fuck a hot stranger?

ToC

01-22-2009, 07:24 PM

good question. :)

I'm guessing it might be part of the 'reserved' (critical) personality?

You could also argue that a hot stranger is fuckable and thus logical... but why this is not enough to an INTJ is a good question indeed. Maybe a S type is more likely to fuck a hot stranger?

Haha... ESFPs get so much sex. In a few studies that I read about ESFPs were also shown to have the lowest median IQ.

Does high IQ = harder to get sex?

Could it be because people with higher IQs are more likely to have some inhibiting personality disorder?

Could it be that smarter people find it harder to communicate with those in a different tier on the bell curve?

Chronos

01-22-2009, 07:26 PM

I picked the middle one.

dalidaisy

01-22-2009, 07:47 PM

My logic tells me that sex with a stranger, regarless of their hotness, is risky. I do not want to die or risk serious repercussions. Thus, I do not have sex with someone until I know them better.

Does high IQ = harder to get sex?

Could it be because people with higher IQs are more likely to have some inhibiting personality disorder?

I have a fairly high IQ & yet I do not have a hard time "getting" sex. But, then again, I'm not one of those people with a high IQ AND a personality disorder...

Chronos

01-22-2009, 08:08 PM

Haha... ESFPs get so much sex. In a few studies that I read about ESFPs were also shown to have the lowest median IQ.

Does high IQ = harder to get sex?

Could it be because people with higher IQs are more likely to have some inhibiting personality disorder?

Could it be that smarter people find it harder to communicate with those in a different tier on the bell curve?

Here (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.) are some possible factors:

Again, other traits being the same, an Introverted person is 8 times more likely to have a high IQ than one who is Extraverted; a Thinking (logic-oriented) person is 2.5 times more likely to have a high IQ than a Feeling (people-oriented) person; and a Judging person (one who seeks closure) is about twice as likely to have a high IQ than a Perceiving person (one who likes to keep his options open).

This indicates that I, T and J are positively correlated with IQ. However, intuitively, it makes sense that be I (not as open to people) and T (not as caring/empathic towards people; decisions based on rationality rather than spur-of-the moment feelings) are negatively correlated with promiscuity. Not so sure about the J, though ...

ToC

01-22-2009, 08:43 PM

Here (To view links or images in this forum your post count must be 2 or greater. You currently have 0 posts.) are some possible factors:

This indicates that I, T and J are positively correlated with IQ. However, intuitively, it makes sense that be I (not as open to people) and T (not as caring/empathic towards people; decisions based on rationality rather than spur-of-the moment feelings) are negatively correlated with promiscuity. Not so sure about the J, though ...

I read about that study, too, but found some others that negated it (to a certain extent). For instance; ENFPs were one of the highest IQ-wise in a big case study. I also found studies that said P was linked to higher IQ rather than J, as Ps are more often right-brained and able to pick things up faster than us Js who are good at using what we have.

True Rune

01-22-2009, 08:55 PM

Asexual/Would only wait until marriage. I don't want to be a jerk, but is it that easy? I've really sheltered myself. I didn't think MOST people did it like that.

LaoTzu

01-22-2009, 09:08 PM

I chose casual. but then Im a little conflicted about it. I choose not to take advantage of someone else for my own gain... and I think that might be hiding behind the question for some people...

I tend to stop and think about sex, not so much because of something in me; but more because I am concerned about what my girl is thinking...I mean... If she's hoping for a relationship, and I'm not that much into her; I will decline. If we just met, and are attracted to each other and have a great conversation... I have no problems going home with her if I think that there is good potential that it would lead to something a bit more serious.

Thats the catch I suppose. I have to like WHO they are. I don't just have sex because I WANT to have sex with anyone anywhere...I'd never PAY for it either... But I have no issues with sleeping with someone that I have just met and think has good potential.

I met my favorite ex. that way :) And it was absolutely the most fantastic year and a half I've had. She's married with two kids now, and I'm still single lol. I think I got the shit end of that stick :P

So no... I'm not going to limit myself to working in some moral framework of 'whats proper'. I just control me. And for me casual works, as long as it works for her.

Edit: Come to think of it.... most of the women I have had relationships with started out as casual lol!

dalidaisy

01-22-2009, 09:45 PM

Well, as long as you communicate your intentions beforehand, and she doesn't have a problem with not having a relationship with you, where's the problem? Can you not just ask her what she's thinking?

Can you really not have sex with someone that you don't see spending the rest of your life with? Do they really have to have that potential? What are your standards for that?

Oh, do you find that women say one thing & then change their tune later on?

Sorry for all the questions. This whole discussing sex rather anonymously has got me curious enough to ask...

SiMey

01-23-2009, 04:49 AM

I generally don't like people touching me, at least until they've passed the 18 month rule.

Hence there is no casual in my genital to genital interaction.

dalidaisy

01-23-2009, 05:31 AM

I generally don't like people touching me, at least until they've passed the 18 month rule.

Hence there is no casual in my genital to genital interaction.

18 months? Rule? Huh?

What if you make it 18 months & finally have sex with this person & it's terrible? When you say no touching, do you mean no sex or no sensual or sexual touching? Is masturbation during this 18 month period permitted or is there a rule for that, too?

Not judging here, just curious...

LaoTzu

01-23-2009, 05:31 AM

Can you really not have sex with someone that you don't see spending the rest of your life with? Do they really have to have that potential? What are your standards for that?

Oh, do you find that women say one thing & then change their tune later on?

I've found not only do women sometimes say one thing, and change their tune; sometimes even I do :P
So by saying that I need that potential, It doesn't have to be you know...a stated goal or anything, its just a question in the back of my own mind; often unstated; that I prefer to be able to say yes to.

Let's just say, I've had some bad experiences in the past... the idea that sex could lead to some sort of life-long tie-in isn't all that far fetched to me :P
(I'm 35 and my son is 15 if you know what I mean ;) )

dalidaisy

01-23-2009, 05:53 AM

I've found not only do women sometimes say one thing, and change their tune; sometimes even I do :P
So by saying that I need that potential, It doesn't have to be you know...a stated goal or anything, its just a question in the back of my own mind; often unstated; that I prefer to be able to say yes to.

Let's just say, I've had some bad experiences in the past... the idea that sex could lead to some sort of life-long tie-in isn't all that far fetched to me :P
(I'm 35 and my son is 15 if you know what I mean ;) )

Man, I totally understand. I am 35 & my daughter is about to turn 14. I got pregnant 2 weeks after meeting her father (I was on the pill). I barely knew the guy & certainly didn't love him. We wound up getting married anyway. Bad idea. It certainly taught me a thing or two about who I trust with my body & the precautions I take when entering a sexual relationship. But still, if I wait for someone who I see a future with, I'll never have sex...

LaoTzu

01-23-2009, 06:42 AM

Man, I totally understand. I am 35 & my daughter is about to turn 14. I got pregnant 2 weeks after meeting her father (I was on the pill). I barely knew the guy & certainly didn't love him. We wound up getting married anyway. Bad idea. It certainly taught me a thing or two about who I trust with my body & the precautions I take when entering a sexual relationship. But still, if I wait for someone who I see a future with, I'll never have sex...

My kid's mom and I met in our mid-teens, and It was a constant battle for me to extricate myself from the relationship. I was ... spineless? ... when It came to hurting someone emotionally (thanx for the guilt complex Mom!), and the ex knew it :P She's a gifted manipulator... We had a love/hate thing for 6 years. Teens..... lol....She went off the pill to keep me around. It worked :P

I did try to make it work, and we were together until the boy was 3, but I figured out one day that if leaving was going to screw him up...then staying and showing him a parental relationship where the mom and dad didn't really like each other much---that would screw him up even more.

She got married about a year later, has 2 other kids. I get along with all of them very well... And my son has the benefit of having 2 fathers from both sides of the spectrum :) I don't think I'd change anything if I went back...

Since I hijacked the thread with that.... back to the original point... :)

My standards (such as they are), and the idea about seeing a chance for a deeper relationship... its kind of a roundabout way of saying... there would have to be some intriguing quality in her that I would be entertained by for those moments when the sex is not occurring :P

dalidaisy

01-23-2009, 07:00 AM

My standards (such as they are), and the idea about seeing a chance for a deeper relationship... its kind of a roundabout way of saying... there would have to be some intriguing quality in her that I would be entertained by for those moments when the sex is not occurring :P

Agreed. I think we all want that. Who wants to have sex with a bore?

Here's my issue. I haven't found someone that I want to be in a long term realtionship with. I tried to force myself into accepting a semi-decent relationship with someone I got along with well & it just turned out badly.

Now, my requirements are so high that it might be impossible to find a suitable long term kinda person. Does this mean I should abstain from sex until I happen upon them? Why should I? Or is it possible to find someone in the same boat as me, who likes sex but sucks at relationships, to have some fun with & it be okay? It just seems logical to me. If I happen upon THE ONE, well, heck, that'd be great. If I don't, well, at least I didn't waste my sex drive.

LaoTzu

01-23-2009, 07:32 AM

I did the same thing, regarding getting into a semi-decent relationship...
My last relationship (4years) ended similarly. We started as 'sex' buddies, an it was me who took it to the next level... we lived together, I gave her a ring...but it didnt work out in the end because we weren't a good match. Now we're just sex buddies again... but even that has less appeal, because I've already seen beyond it...there's no intrigue.

My relationship problems stem from the fact that I'm just as much a 'P' as a 'J'... I can figure out a way to make it work from the start, but I end up getting frustrated and closed off by the end because It really should NOT have worked, and I'm not getting what I want out of it.

I'm slow in getting back in the mix, not because I'm not afraid of being alone, but I'm afraid of meeting someone who IS. It's hard to find someone who doesn't attatch 'relationship' to sex, but who is at the same time 'sexworthy' :)

dalidaisy

01-23-2009, 07:40 AM

LaoTzu

01-23-2009, 08:04 AM

Hmmm... It's the opposite for me, in a way. I find it's rather easy to find sex partners. Unfortunately, at some point, they decide they want a relationship with me. Then, it has to end. There are, sadly, a lot of needy people out there.

You have the benefit of being female and attractive. I wouldn't say it's easy for you, but ... well it probably is :P I see your point with the clingy types too...nothing's more of a turn-off than someone who 'NEEDS' to be with you; or bases their entire happiness on your presence. That sounds the 'RUN' alarm for me.

loosefanbelt

01-23-2009, 08:19 AM

intjdude

01-23-2009, 08:30 AM

I got pregnant 2 weeks after meeting her father (I was on the pill). I barely knew the guy & certainly didn't love him.

You chose close relationship in the poll when you admit this?

As it indicated in the original post, choose by your 'sexual history'.

dalidaisy

01-23-2009, 08:32 AM

You chose close relationship in the poll when you admit this?

As it indicated in the original post, choose by your 'sexual history'.

Dude, I was 19! Are we talking the past or the present? Are we not all capable of learning from our mistakes?

Antares

01-23-2009, 08:33 AM

First option. I don't need sex, really. It could be due to my age, but it's pretty unfathomable that I'd ever be hungry for it.

intjdude

01-23-2009, 08:50 AM

Dude, I was 19! Are we talking the past or the present? Are we not all capable of learning from our mistakes?

-----excerpt from other thread------
So, in my 23 years of sexual experience, with 13 of those being with just 3 partners (in committed relationships), I had sex with 30 people (ouside of commitment) in 10 years. That's 3 per year if you average it out (in some instances, they were at the same time, if that helps). I will not even try to imagine how many TIMES I've had sex with each of these people.

So lets do some math here...
3 per year is one new person every 4 months... and that's *IF* you space them out evenly... and 30 out of 33 is 91% of your history..

I don't know about you, but i think our definitions of 'close' are way off.

dalidaisy

01-23-2009, 08:56 AM

So lets do some math here...
3 per year is one new person every 4 months... and that's *IF* you space them out evenly... and 30 out of 33 is 91% of your history..

I don't know about you, but i think our definitions of 'close' are way off.

Dude, why are you attacking me? I'm answering your poll honestly. Did you not read that some people were at the same time?

Also, I don't need a friendship, just a huge amount of mutual trust. That takes a certain closeness with someone, more than a casual aquaintence. It doesn't take me years to build that. I think I explained that in my response.

Who are you to judge my definition of "close" anyway?

Nikita

01-23-2009, 09:09 AM

This is for INTJs only.
Choose the best answer based on your sexual history. If no history, then choose based on your ideals.

Explain why chose that answer (if you don't mind discussing it).

You do realize that this is predicated upon the assumption that everyone here has accurately self-typed, right? I used to test INTJ, I still do sometimes, and I know of other people who had similarly mistyped themselves. I'm just pointing this out for your reference in interpreting whatever data you're hoping to collect via this thread.

intjdude

01-23-2009, 09:22 AM

intjdude - I can't vote, but can lurk...

I am interested in the question behind the poll. Are you trying to determine if any correlation exists between sex and intimacy or ethics or knowledge of the person?

good question... I guess the purpose is to see how INTJs value sex... whether we give it away easily or not... whether we award it by the partner's personality (intimacy) vs looks... essentially, to see how superficial we might be in general...

as you can see, only 1 selected (so far) the third option... perhaps S types would be higher there?

from the '# of sex partners poll', 62% (and climbing) have had 2 partners or less... average age is perhaps mid 20s?... does seem to match a 'reserved' personality extending to sex... this is in contrast with the original non-poll thread that had mostly high partner numbers being quoted (fairly misleading)

Synamon

01-23-2009, 09:27 AM

good question... I guess the purpose is to see how INTJs value sex... whether we give it away easily or not... whether we award it by the partner's personality (intimacy) vs looks... essentially, to see how superficial we might be in general...

as you can see, only 1 selected (so far) the third option... perhaps S types would be higher there?

from the '# of sex partners poll', 62% (and climbing) have had 2 partners or less... average age is perhaps mid 20s?... does seem to match a 'reserved' personality extending to sex... this is in contrast with the original non-poll thread that had mostly high partner numbers being quoted (fairly misleading)
None of these recent 'sex threads' have any statistical validity at all. Lies, damn lies, and voluntary polls all have something in common, they are useless as far as data collection is concerned. They certainly don't validate your little theory. The way you framed your questions has been mentioned repeatedly in this thread as faulty in the first place.

intjdude

01-23-2009, 09:32 AM

Dude, why are you attacking me? I'm answering your poll honestly. Did you not read that some people were at the same time?

Also, I don't need a friendship, just a huge amount of mutual trust. That takes a certain closeness with someone, more than a casual aquaintence. It doesn't take me years to build that. I think I explained that in my response.

Who are you to judge my definition of "close" anyway?

I'm not attacking you personally... i'm just saying that your history would fit the 'casual sex' selection better...

And as far as your definition of 'close', well, if we all have completely different ideas of what close actually is then the poll is worthless.

Kisai

01-23-2009, 09:36 AM

A nice personality, plain looks or above, and an appetite for sex.

I think I oversimplified my orginial statement.

One of the three should be good or exceptional by my standards.

The first, personality, is the hardest for me to ascertain IRL. On this forum, its easier because you can observe someone having a conversation with someone else. If I'm flirting with you on this forum, its because you have a good personality and I like you.

Plain looks are ok. The prettier you are, the more I'm going to forget my standards. I'm a typical man in that great looks mitigate terrible personality traits, but my idea of a terrible personality trait is "weakness" or "complacency", things that typical, rather than bad people possess.

A good sex drive makes things much more fun. I feel more comfortable with people who are comfortable with their sexuality.

intjdude

01-23-2009, 09:38 AM

You do realize that this is predicated upon the assumption that everyone here has accurately self-typed, right? I used to test INTJ, I still do sometimes, and I know of other people who had similarly mistyped themselves. I'm just pointing this out for your reference in interpreting whatever data you're hoping to collect via this thread.

oh yeah. There's a whole lot of things wrong with both polls... it's mostly for entertainment... the worth is to be evaluated with the comments in mind... (like waiting for marriage)

dalidaisy

01-23-2009, 09:42 AM

I'm not attacking you personally... i'm just saying that your history would fit the 'casual sex' selection better...

And as far as your definition of 'close', well, if we all have completely different ideas of what close actually is then the poll is worthless.

I think we have determined that it is, indeed, useless, first of all.

I do not have sex with strangers & I do not have sex with someone that I do not know intimately. This, for me, requires a level of emotional involvement. I'm putting my body in their hands. I do not take this lightly. I am risking pregnancy, illness & possibly pain by entering a sexual relationship with someone. I don't classify it as casual sex. In fact, I don't categorize it at all. I was mearly answering your question to the best of my ability with the options given.

Your opinion of where my sexual requirements fit are of no concern to me...

intjdude

01-23-2009, 09:43 AM

None of these recent 'sex threads' have any statistical validity at all. Lies, damn lies, and voluntary polls all have something in common, they are useless as far as data collection is concerned. They certainly don't validate your little theory. The way you framed your questions has been mentioned repeatedly in this thread as faulty in the first place.

Polls are only worth as much as people's comments on here.. why the double standard?

Synamon

01-23-2009, 09:45 AM

intjdude

01-23-2009, 10:08 AM

Since you like statistics so much, only half the people who've read this thread voted (including me since I didn't like the options). Here's one more, my best guess would be that about half the people on the forum don't even read Sociology threads.

You say that as if it means anything on its own (nor do I know how you know your statistic)...

Here's another statistic for you... 48 voted on the poll with only 2 pages of comments... perhaps people like polls? we should make that a poll ;)

Hatsumomo1

01-23-2009, 11:03 AM

I honestly don't think I could ever have sex with someone I didn't care about at all. Why waste my time and energy when I could probably do better myself? I also don't feel like getting into the sticky situation of having an unplanned pregnancy with some guy I barely know.

For me to actually enjoy it, I have to care about them deeply and be romantically attracted to them. And, being the cynical person I am, I have to know that there's a near guaranteed chance that they'll feel the same way about me. As someone else stated above me, I generally don't like being touched, and whoever gets to do that I have to feel that they're worthy enough to.

LaoTzu

01-23-2009, 04:14 PM

I think the intent of these sex polls are for the pollsters to gauge how good or pathetic their sex life is....

To think that an INTJ wouldn't have thought sex through completely seems a little silly doesn't it? I'm having a little trouble with some of the attitude on this ....

Of course most people would want sex in a committed relationship, hence the poll results... but fact remains, many people would change their vote if they met someone tonight in the right setting, and had an instant 'click'... To talk about it like it's throwing something away... that just says more about you than me...

I enjoyed the experience and the connection with the people I have slept with. Reality, such as it is, can take a back seat...life is about special moments IMO; and I wouldn't choose to miss one of them because I'm worried about what other people think.

People who try to judge me will typically get a two word response (rhymes with duck poo!)

NZPixie

01-23-2009, 05:54 PM

No options apply. I will have sex with someone I barely know but I would expect there to be a continuation of the relationship... friends with benefits or moving to a real relationship. I will also have one night stands but it is not my preffered option. I prefer exclusive relationships, and I prefer long term relationships. But I don't really see how that has anything much to do with sex. When I am in a relationship I am faithful. When/if it ends I will sleep with other people. When I am in a new exclusive relationship I am faithful again and it doesn't matter.

I pretty much just have to get sex. No requirements.

intjdude

01-23-2009, 06:23 PM

I pretty much just have to get sex. No requirements.

Then the last option fits... If one night stands are fine, then that's your option.

It doesn't mean that that option is what you are constantly looking for. But it's the least exclusive of all 3 options.

daydreamer

01-24-2009, 05:42 PM

requires a close relationship. i am not usually attracted/interested in that many people sexually to the degree that i pursue that level of closeness - but when i do, it happens more on the other person's time table than mine. i can get close enough for sex pretty quickly, but it's still a true closeness, i dedicate myself to it fully and quite naturally. on the other hand, the partners i tend to choose sometimes need a little patience, a little time lol hey it's true, i dunno why it is. weird huh? lol

sombragris

01-25-2009, 11:27 AM

This doesn't really describes my choice. I would seek a woman that is attractive, sensuous... and she has to make me lust for her. She must be comfortable with pleasuring her body.

greenblob

01-25-2009, 12:50 PM

For me, beggars can't be choosers.

sombragris

01-25-2009, 12:51 PM

Believe me, I get to choose. ;)

SiMey

01-25-2009, 02:33 PM

18 months? Rule? Huh?

What if you make it 18 months & finally have sex with this person & it's terrible? When you say no touching, do you mean no sex or no sensual or sexual touching? Is masturbation during this 18 month period permitted or is there a rule for that, too? Not judging here, just curious...

Sorry, I was talking about touching from the general public. Like when I meet my wife's new friend for the first time and she comes to give me a hug and a kiss. Go away!

PS There's nothing wrong with DIY. There's a happy ending every time!

I do not have sex with strangers & I do not have sex with someone that I do not know intimately. This, for me, requires a level of emotional involvement. I'm putting my body in their hands. I do not take this lightly. I am risking pregnancy, illness & possibly pain by entering a sexual relationship with someone.

I've never had sex with a stranger. I've only had sex with people I have met, seen and talked to for some time before hand, as I have to allow them to break the 18 month rule.