No Interest in Romance

[blatant]

I was wondering if anyone else feels like me:

I don't like the opposite gender enough to form romantic bonds.

I just don't find them to be both physically attractive and mentally compatible, and I would rather play videogames all day. And romance novels/fandom and vibrators seem to fulfill my physical and emotional needs just fine. I feel happier reading a good novel than going on a date. Most people just don't appeal to me.

Everyone tells me that I'm missing out, but I don't feel loneliness or regret. I like my life and I'm proud of the person I am.

[Shinqui]

I don't feel anything like you. However there are quite a few asexual members here. The real question though, is if you don't like the opposite sex, what about the same sex?

[Rudy]

I'm somewhat similar. I could take or leave the idea of having a S.O., but I do want children someday, so...

[blatant]

I don't feel anything like you. However there are quite a few asexual members here. The real question though, is if you don't like the opposite sex, what about the same sex?

I wish I was into the same sex! But alas, no. :(

I'm not asexual. I like yaoi and made-for-women porn plenty. I just don't find real men appealing most of the time since I'm used to being surrounded by beautiful, flawless men in my fandom.

[Shinqui]

I feel happier reading a good novel than going on a date. Most people just don't appeal to me.

Certainly I can empathize with this statement, perhaps you are simply very selective, I imagine that this is a normal INTJ trait.

Of course, you may be falling into the pr0n trap that many men fall into, where the fantasy outshines the reality and leaves you alone. However, why does this concern you, after all, you sound happy enough with the whole idea.

[Mozzes]

Are you looking for someone to convince you you're wrong or are you looking for a support group?

[blatant]

^ A support group. I have too many people in real life trying to change my mind. And it doesn't work. It's just amusing to see them flail their arms and whine about it.

[WaeV]

Try the bostonian challenge. :p

[Lymitra]

I would say you are not asexual but rather aromantic (yes, there is such an "orientation.")

[Vagrant]

To each their own. It may just be that you're extremely selective, or just want to skip the romantic process as was said above. You don't sound entirely asexual, just disillusioned with the whole thing.

[zibber]

I don't like the opposite gender enough to form romantic bonds.

I just don't find them to be both physically attractive and mentally compatible, and I would rather play videogames all day.

Glad you're proud and comfortable, but what exactly is "the opposite gender" and why should one be attracted to that in order to form a romantic bond? What's "them"? (Please don't answer "duh, guys".)

You are claiming not to be attracted to billions of people, 99% of whom you've never seen or met. That's a little hyperbolic.

Don't be too focused on gender, and by all means, please don't feel pressured to like this or that person. You don't like anyone romantically, so what? Some people may give you the idea that you should, but that's complete bunk.

I would say you are not asexual but rather aromantic (yes, there is such an "orientation.")

No, no, no.. If someone happens never to have been attracted to someone sexually, that does not make them asexual. If someone happens never to have been attracted to someone romantically, that does not make them aromantic. (It makes them someone who happens never to have been attracted to someone romantically.)

Whence this rush to definitively classify oneself?

[MrCynical]

I feel the same.

I'm attracted to females but my head cant be bothered and the little guy downstairs just wants instant gratification.

[MaleVolentworld]

I was wondering if anyone else feels like me:

I don't like the opposite gender enough to form romantic bonds.

I just don't find them to be both physically attractive and mentally compatible, and I would rather play videogames all day. And romance novels/fandom and vibrators seem to fulfill my physical and emotional needs just fine. I feel happier reading a good novel than going on a date. Most people just don't appeal to me.

Everyone tells me that I'm missing out, but I don't feel loneliness or regret. I like my life and I'm proud of the person I am.

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[changos]

I just don't find them to be both physically attractive and mentally compatible, and I would rather play videogames all day. And romance novels/fandom and vibrators seem to fulfill my physical and emotional needs just fine. I feel happier reading a good novel than going on a date. Most people just don't appeal to me.

Everyone tells me that I'm missing out, but I don't feel loneliness or regret. I like my life and I'm proud of the person I am.

Romance requires time, energy, commitment, even money. I think the interest one might have on romance depends on many factors:


Your age
Social environment (some kind of influence of pressure)
Your experience
Your last experience with romance and how strong it was
The people surrounding you (just like food, not every plate is appealing)
Compatibility
You actually concerned more on your projects, study, life...
Hormonal levels or the effects of stress
Priorities...
Your family background (what you saw as you grow)
or just lack of interest at the moment...

I don't like the opposite gender enough to form romantic bonds.Mmm I would think more about compatibility. As a example, at work there are many pretty (and truly beautiful) girls, but none of my friends or myself have any (not even 1%) interest on them. (but there is interest in other kind of girls)

Give it time, some require more mental and intellectual stimulation than others. What matters is what you want-like and feeling comfortable and healthy.

[Lymitra]

No, no, no.. If someone happens never to have been attracted to someone sexually, that does not make them asexual. If someone happens never to have been attracted to someone romantically, that does not make them aromantic. (It makes them someone who happens never to have been attracted to someone romantically.)

Whence this rush to definitively classify oneself?

Then how would you define asexuality/aromance? Or do you perfer not to label? To clarify, my intention was not to classify anyone; I apologize if I came across that way.