Living Alone

[lizzyb83]

What I wouldn't give to have everything be left exactly where I left it the last time I locked the door to my apartment on the way to work, or to avoid having my alarm clock every morning be the emesis-inducing sound of my roommate's significant other's chronic sinusitis resonating throughout our apartment.

I've often been told in response to sighing, wistful pontifications on the pleasures of not having to share my living quarters with others that I should be "careful what I wish for". Hmmm...somehow, getting pounced on and listening to someone prattle on for hours about some insignificant, emotionally overblown event selected from her daily minutiae while trying to prepare some food for myself or listening to dysfunctional relationships being dramatically assessed and re-assessed daily through the flimsy barriers between our rooms makes living alone sound like heaven on earth. So until that day arrives, thank you for allowing me the forum space to vent and to all others in a similar boat, hang in there...it's not easy! :irked:

[Harmony]

You are welcome... Certainly do not miss my ex's snoring! The only roommate I've had that didn't get on my nerves was a few years back. The layout of the apartment was perfect. Our bedrooms were next to each other, but there was a closet and bathroom separating us, so I couldn't hear her and she couldn't hear me. =)

Just 5 more posts and you can get to the member's Section to the official Vent Thread. ;)

[lizzyb83]

You are welcome... Certainly do not miss my ex's snoring! The only roommate I've had that didn't get on my nerves was a few years back. The layout of the apartment was perfect. Our bedrooms were next to each other, but there was a closet and bathroom separating us, so I couldn't hear her and she couldn't hear me. =)

Just 5 more posts and you can get to the member's Section to the official Vent Thread. ;)

Nice. I move in May (thankfully) - will still have a roommate, but one is better than three and she's pretty similar to me. Plus, our rooms will be separate enough that I don't think it'll be as easy to hear everything. I only have to hold out for four more months (I'm not counting January).

[Harmony]

I hate moving, but man, sometimes it's the best thing in the world to get away from a roommate you can't stand anymore!!!

[lizzyb83]

I agree - moving is a bitch!!! I haven't had to for three years now, which is good considering that every year up until that point had been book-ended by that horrid ritual. However, my current situation is making it sound like a dream ;).

[Anderson]

Like you, I long to live in solitude. My dream will someday come true, financed allowing.

[lizzyb83]

Like you, I long to live in solitude. My dream will someday come true, financed allowing.

Let us hope so, my friend...

[zibber]

I'm so split on whether I want to live together with my (mostly extraverted) girlfriend in the future. Some agreements would have to be made which aren't really relevant/urgent at this moment.

As for you: the countdown has begun! :)

[Harmony]

I'm so split on whether I want to live together with my (mostly extraverted) girlfriend in the future. Some agreements would have to be made which aren't really relevant/urgent at this moment.

As for you: the countdown has begun! :)

The bonus to living with an extrovert... They might go away for awhile and you'd have the place to yourself... Didn't work so well in my case. He always wanted me to go with him. :irked:

[Josephine1012]

I'm an extrovert and I LOVE living by myself... (ok, i'm a dubious extrovert) I enjoy people, but I don't want them in my stuff. I've had a string of roommates through college, a couple of good ones, one with borderline personality disorder (this is how I learned to be patient with people, when physical violence seems to be the only logical answer).

Nothing compares to living on your own, you can still invite people over and go visiting by at the end of the day you're the queen of your own castle :)

[Harmony]

Yeah... I didn't like roommates... Amazingly enough when I lived with roommates my favorite skirt disappeared.... My tennis racket vanished.... All kinds of things just wound up missing... I was very glad to get back out on my own!!!

[lizzyb83]

I'm an extrovert and I LOVE living by myself... (ok, i'm a dubious extrovert) I enjoy people, but I don't want them in my stuff. I've had a string of roommates through college, a couple of good ones, one with borderline personality disorder (this is how I learned to be patient with people, when physical violence seems to be the only logical answer).

Nothing compares to living on your own, you can still invite people over and go visiting by at the end of the day you're the queen of your own castle :)

I agree - and they inevitably wind up getting in your stuff. I've had DVDs that aren't returned for months on end, food that gets taken out of my room and eaten, clothes that wind up in others' closets, and the list goes on and on. And as for the BPD roomie experience you had, I have the same one right now, and it's not fun. Especially when there are two others with their own issues as well. Argh!





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I'm so split on whether I want to live together with my (mostly extraverted) girlfriend in the future. Some agreements would have to be made which aren't really relevant/urgent at this moment.

As for you: the countdown has begun! :)

I think if I end up planning to live with a significant other in the future, I will have to ask that I first have at least one year of living by myself before things progress. I refuse to forego the living alone dream, even if it is merely an ephemeral one!

[Rudy]

I think if I end up planning to live with a significant other in the future, I will have to ask that I first have at least one year of living by myself before things progress. I refuse to forego the living alone dream, even if it is merely an ephemeral one!

Hmm... I'd try to get that out of the way before the S.O. if at all possible. Most people probably won't take that request very well... =D

[Zilal]

I loved having my own place. I have a roommate now and she's very considerate, but I can still feel myself relax as soon as she leaves the apartment and I'm alone again.

[kira]

I'm so split on whether I want to live together with my (mostly extraverted) girlfriend in the future. Some agreements would have to be made which aren't really relevant/urgent at this moment.

My s.o. is very extroverted too, and living together has been challenging. That's wise to hash all of that out prior to moving in together. I didn't have the forethought unfortunately, was taken aback by how often people pop by, and confused him for awhile because I didn't turn out to be as easygoing about this as he thought I'd be. We're both working on it now though.

To the OP: People have also given me similar warnings as "be careful what you wish for," but all those years of living alone has been bliss. A few times, I relocated to cities by myself and without knowing a single soul there. The experience wasn't anywhere near as lonely as other people made it out to be. On the rare occasion where I want to see people, I'd just go to the gym or grocery store, and that takes care of that.

[dalidaisy]

Imagine having a kid & then, when she turns 9, having another. Once the youngest moves out, the oldest will probably move back in. I will never be alone. I can't even remember what it feels like...

[Zanbu4win]

Living alone is a blessing for being in the military and living in the barracks having a roommate generally means working with someone all day only to have them follow you home.

During the summer my commands gets a lot of new staff members here on temporary orders to help with a big operation so for three months out of the year I have a roommate the rest of the time it's just me so I get plenty of time to recharge and all the quite time I could want to read my books. Then a gain the rooms here are really small so there's a lot of forced interaction so sometimes I think it wouldn't be so bad with more space.