Alright.... Need some help! INFP for me?

[jadefalcon]

I wrote this post in physics class because I am tired about hearing Kirchoff's Law over and over again.


Ideal: t, f I prefer a balance. She undestands a need for f but is intelligent t. She will understand where I am coming from but feel needs for emotion in a relationship. She is not afraid to get angry at me, but is always willing to sort things out.

N (Intuition) a must. Does not cling to things such as clothes, shoes or dogs, but can cling to me at times to show affection, devotion, love, whatever you want to call it without a dependancy on me for everything. Must be clever, can have a sense of style without owning five closets of clothes and makeup. Able to think for herself and is able to think through things.

Ideal- I,i,e- independent, but feels the need to get out of the house once in a while (I like introverted "extravert" activities such as backpacking, hiking, bike riding, camping (heh), traveling to other countries, etc). Must be able to understand a trait of the INTJ- we need our alone time to recharge ourselves due to our nature, and that we are not shunning the other person or denying love- it is just how our brain is wired. If e, should remember that INTJs arn't big on parties, but parties with relatives or very close friends is fine! The turtle can come out of his shell a bit, but you won't find me hitting it up at a dance party or DJ session, I hate bars, dance parties, what have you. I am a man yes, but you will NOT find me in a strip club with other guys.


Sex is optional and I am neutral on the issue. I would prefer her opinion on the issue and let her take charge in that respect- I feel it is a more honorable thing to do. Will hold back if necessary, will have fun if required.

INtj
INTj
iNtj

INfj
INfp
INtp
INTP
iNfj
iNfp
iNtp
intp

entj
eNfp
eNfj
eNtp
eNtj

1.7 to 1 prefer an Nt over an Nf.
100% Prefer an N, or very weak s.
2.2 to 1 prefer an I, i.


Is there a type suitable for this InTJ? It seems that I prefer somewhere between a balance and extremes, somewhere in the middle.

[Kisai]

There is absolutely no way that you're going to be able to design a woman for your specifications.

There is absolutely no way that you're going to be able to create an opportunity to date a woman based on your prescribed criteria.

There is absolutely no way that you're going to find happiness by going around with such a strict yardstick to measure potential candidates for your future lovers.

[curiousjane]

Absolutely not. Why should he ever find just what he is looking for? Ridiculous!

Why, just two years ago, my younger brother set out to do the same thing. And look how it turned out for him? Married! And a kid on the way a year later! Terrible.

Not only that, but the atrocity is greater ... she exceeded his expectations! Quite unexpected. Most unusual. Certainly a fluke of nature.



(Now, do I endorse shopping list requirements for your significant other? Not really. It does help to know what you're looking for, however. Yet do I think it is realistic or even preferable to insist that list is completely met in one person? Not really.)

[Indubitably]

Absolutely not. Why should he ever find just what he is looking for? Ridiculous!

Why, just two years ago, my younger brother set out to do the same thing. And look how it turned out for him? Married! And a kid on the way a year later! Terrible.

Not only that, but the atrocity is greater ... she exceeded his expectations! Quite unexpected. Most unusual. Certainly a fluke of nature.



(Now, do I endorse shopping list requirements for your significant other? Not really. It does help to know what you're looking for, however. Yet do I think it is realistic or even preferable to insist that list is completely met in one person? Not really.)

Its loosing the one you never knew was the love our your life that is the real tragedy in this plan.

[Monte314]

Male INTJ + female INFP is a good match.

[Moondyn]

All I want is a very happy and cheerful ENFP :wideeyed:, I wouldn't be able to live with a depressing person.

[Natsilani]

It seems that us INTJs have the most trouble with Sensors. It is possible to cooperate with a Feeler or an Extravert, but S vs N thinking is just so principally different, it tends to not make a good match.

But then again, perhaps that's just me, I seem to have a really hard time with any S type.

And you never know when the sparkle of love will hit you like a speeding train, sometimes regardless of what personality type they are, and how much you try to resist it ^.^

[jikin]

And you never know when the sparkle of love will hit you like a speeding train, sometimes regardless of what personality type they are, and how much you try to resist it ^.^

That is, of course, true, but sometimes it is best to resist. Having 2 people of conflicting natures together may be fun for a short time, but in the long run it usually leads to too many misunderstandings which lead to hard feelings and a ruined relationship. It doesn't always end that way, there's just a higher probability of it.

While having a huge list isn't a great idea, knowing yourself and what you would do best with will give you a better chance at a lasting relationship.

[jadefalcon]

That is, of course, true, but sometimes it is best to resist. Having 2 people of conflicting natures together may be fun for a short time, but in the long run it usually leads to too many misunderstandings which lead to hard feelings and a ruined relationship. It doesn't always end that way, there's just a higher probability of it.

While having a huge list isn't a great idea, knowing yourself and what you would do best with will give you a better chance at a lasting relationship.


I agree with a lot of this- It will take a long time to make a relationship work, but in the long run I had similar ideas with my opposite- dating an ESFP (or ENFP) would not go to my advantage and lead to misunderstandings. Often, I already have misunderstandings with ENFPs as it is.

Seems like I'm not popular with INFPs, either. Thats fine with me though! I am more than willing to continue on with life and my adventures (traveling), but it would be a lot more fun to have someone with me. Everyone has their picky lists, but compromising is where a relationship is balanced and has the potential to work out, so I believe.





jadefalcon added to this post, 3 minutes and 57 seconds later...

There is absolutely no way that you're going to be able to design a woman for your specifications.

Arn't relationships about compromise? What about conflicts that arise? What if one has a problem with the other doing something?

There is absolutely no way that you're going to be able to create an opportunity to date a woman based on your prescribed criteria.

This is alright with me- I didn't expect to meet anyone in the first place- this is more of an analytical work at my preferences. It is a lie to deny that no one has a preference as to the qualities of their spouse or love.

There is absolutely no way that you're going to find happiness by going around with such a strict yardstick to measure potential candidates for your future lovers.

Too strict, or too careful? I am always willing to give up yardage to make a relationship work. I am happy as it is right now, coming out of my depression- and unlike the rest of the population of the world I don't NEED a relationship to be happy, but one certainly couldn't hurt.

[iuniperus]

I wrote this post in physics class because I am tired about hearing Kirchoff's Law over and over again.


Ideal: t, f I prefer a balance. She undestands a need for f but is intelligent t. She will understand where I am coming from but feel needs for emotion in a relationship. She is not afraid to get angry at me, but is always willing to sort things out.

N (Intuition) a must. Does not cling to things such as clothes, shoes or dogs, but can cling to me at times to show affection, devotion, love, whatever you want to call it without a dependancy on me for everything. Must be clever, can have a sense of style without owning five closets of clothes and makeup. Able to think for herself and is able to think through things.

Ideal- I,i,e- independent, but feels the need to get out of the house once in a while (I like introverted "extravert" activities such as backpacking, hiking, bike riding, camping (heh), traveling to other countries, etc). Must be able to understand a trait of the INTJ- we need our alone time to recharge ourselves due to our nature, and that we are not shunning the other person or denying love- it is just how our brain is wired. If e, should remember that INTJs arn't big on parties, but parties with relatives or very close friends is fine! The turtle can come out of his shell a bit, but you won't find me hitting it up at a dance party or DJ session, I hate bars, dance parties, what have you. I am a man yes, but you will NOT find me in a strip club with other guys.


Sex is optional and I am neutral on the issue. I would prefer her opinion on the issue and let her take charge in that respect- I feel it is a more honorable thing to do. Will hold back if necessary, will have fun if required.

INtj
INTj
iNtj

INfj
INfp
INtp
INTP
iNfj
iNfp
iNtp
intp

entj
eNfp
eNfj
eNtp
eNtj

1.7 to 1 prefer an Nt over an Nf.
100% Prefer an N, or very weak s.
2.2 to 1 prefer an I, i.


Is there a type suitable for this InTJ? It seems that I prefer somewhere between a balance and extremes, somewhere in the middle.

I actually think an INFP would fit your profile rather well (or at least describes me with some accuracy). Though you also have to understand that there is a downside to INFPs as well- they are extremely sensitive and become withdrawn easily.